What is Emotional Abuse? I've asked myself this question a million times. I never knew the answers and for a long time I was too afraid to find them, I was afraid of what I'd discover. About myself, about my spouse, about our life. Then for some reason in the last couple of weeks I have been feeling more and more out of touch with reality and decided it was time to get some answers to the questions that I had been too afraid to seek. So I started posting anonymous confessions about things going on in my life. Just to get them off my mind. I started reading what people commented and considering what they had to say. Drawing my own conclusions from it. One of my confessions/questions was on this subject and when I went back and looked at the comments people had made. One comment stuck out more than any other. and the comment was "Google it" Google what Emotional Abuse was. and so I did. and the answers that I found were defiantly not ones I liked. But they were a reality that I had been hiding from. A reality that I was too afraid to face. No longer. After reading what was there. My eyes were opened to things on a whole new level. My eyes were open to my spouses abuse of me. and while it may not have been intentional. I do not believe it was. For part of his problem stems back to his childhood. It doesn't make his actions any less real. and it doesn't mean that I can hide from them or ignore them any longer. Its time to face what couldn't be faced before. I am no longer afraid. and I can no longer sit by and endure my life and his abuse, as I have done for so long. Intentional or not. Anyway so here I am posting something again. and I decided I wanted to post the questions that I found that helped me see what has been going on. and to help me realize that if things are going to work in my relationship my spouse and I need counseling. Him for his abuse and I for my recovery. and that if he isn't willing or doesn't want to go. I can't stay in the situation any longer, but must do what is right for me. So here they are and I hope that for some of women out there, that suspect themselves of being a victim of Emotional Abuse that these questions will help you see the reality of it, and will help you know that it is not healthy in any way. and if you want have a chance at happiness for yourself. Your gonna have to take steps to change your life. If that means getting the courage to confront your abuser and get counseling to work things out, or if their not willing to do that then it means getting the courage to say it's over and to take yourself out of the situation entirely. Either way You can Not change your abuser. You can only change you. and what I mean by changing you is your courage or lack of it, to be able to put a stop to allowing it to happen. You can do it. Its hard. and it can be scary but you Can do it. You Can say Enough is Enough and get help. Anyway here are the questions that can help you answer what is emotional abuse if you allow them to: Read the rest...
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INNER CHILD
Hello Dear Jesus, It’s been a long, long time.
I hope that you still know me, I’ve been hiding quite awhile.
I know that you know all things. Still, I think I should explain,
The reason I’ve been hiding, Is because of all the shame.
I know that I don’t look so great, For meeting up with you
But I hope you understand, I’ve been alone since I was eight.
You probably see the dirt marks, And smudges on my face
But it seems no matter how I try, Some things can’t be erased.
They say that eyes are windows, That peer into the soul.
I’m afraid that if you look there, You’ll find it dark and cold.
I’m not sure why it is, Lord, But you won’t see any tears.
I guess they’ve just been locked up. Inside me all these years.
I know that limp and lifeless, Is my unruly hair.
I guess that’s just what happens, When no one really cares.
And if you ask a question, I won’t have much to say.
I’ve found that no one really wants, To hear me anyway.
And if you care to listen, Sit quiet and you’ll hear
How hard my heart is pounding. That’s because of all the fear.
You’ll notice that I wrap my arms Around me all the time.
I do that for protection Of the things that should be mine.
See, not so very long ago, Without an ounce of care,
Someone took away from me. Things I never meant to share.
And if you find I tremble When you come close to me,
It’s because of all the dreadful things That someone did to me.
Jesus I’m so sorry, If these things have saddened you.
But when I cried out to you. You never told me what to do.
I know that in my mother’s womb You created me
And I can’t help but wonder. Is this what I was meant be?
They say that you are everywhere, With each and every one,
But it seems that on those dark nights. You left me all alone.
They tell me that you love me. And I suppose it’s true,
But Jesus, please remember, That he said he loved me too.
Monday 16 April 2012
What Is Emotional Abuse
Monday 16 April 2012 - 12:01:36
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